To the editor:

We need to outweigh some horrible models we now have for our children and others. Several parents have told me they don’t like their children to listen to the news because of the hateful statements and conversations they could hear.

Each of us can be a positive model. Uncontrolled anger can cause unhealthy stress that can affect our emotional, mental and physical well-being. The power of anger can be used to build something positive rather than violence. Recently I created ideas for a bike rodeo with my anger. I am using anger now as I write.

Controlling anger may be needed when another person says something we don’t like.

“I feel threatened by what he/she said to me. I need to feel strong now. I need to breath deeply, relax and choose the best reaction.”

The reaction could be compassionate when we see through the situation, realizing the other person also has emotions, needs and values. A positive conversation may even be the outcome when we stay away from judging and labeling the other person. We might even learn something from the other person’s perspective. On the other hand, we need to go around people that are abusive which is another discussion for children too.

We need to model positive communication skills for children and others.

HELEN HOOVER

Kingston